Trusting The Process

One year and four births down, many more to go.

Yesterday morning I woke up, and like so many millennials, I checked my facebook.

Look, don't judge me. Trust me, I wish I could say that the first thing I did every morning was yoga, or read my Bible, or something more thoughtful, but it is what it is.

Anyhow, the first thing I saw was this: 

DONA Doula Training at Florida School of Traditional Midwifery with Rae Davies of The Birth Company

This picture was taken on the last day of my Doula Training with DONA Trainer Rae Davies. This was the weekend that changed my life. I left that weekend more sure of my heart for birth work and my desire to pursue it!

Somehow, simultaneously, I can't believe it's only been a year, and also can't believe how fast the year has gone. A year later, I have attended 4 births, and just booked my fifth. That number might seem small to you, honestly, it feels small to me sometimes, but it doesn't take into account the countless hours I have invested, or the contacts I have made over the last year. I have had tables at 2 different expos, read 15 books, became a member of The Tampa Bay Birth Network, built a website, attended half a dozen child birth education classes, done a hypnobirthing course, and attended my Postpartum Placenta Specialist training. Next week, I am attending my Certified Lactation Counselor training, finally! I registered like 9 months ago!

Most recently, I was asked to be on the board of the Tampa Bay Birth Network, which has been really exciting! I joined the team as the Membership Officer which will give me the opportunity to get to know more people in this community, and to share my love for birth and people. My first order of business with TBBN was helping with the Tampa Bay Birth and Baby Expo which was this weekend. Talk about diving in headfirst, but oh, man, was that event fulfilling! 

Tampa Bay Birth Network Board at this year's Tampa Birth and Baby Expo. Photo by Christina Kulak Photography

Tampa Bay Birth Network Board at this year's Tampa Birth and Baby Expo. Photo by Christina Kulak Photography

I feel so lucky to have experienced this last year as I have. I feel like things are really moving forward for me and that doors are opening. The day I decided to be a doula I received some of the best advice of my life. I was in the process of applying to Midwifery School and trying to figure out how the heck I was gonna afford it. At my doula training, which is a requirement for the midwifery school application, one of the faculty said, "Trust the process of getting into midwifery school. Don't force it if it's not the right time. Just like birth. We tell women to trust their bodies -- to trust the process of birth, and we tell you the same." 

So, that's what I have done this last year. Trust.

My business isn't growing as fast as some others have? Trust. I can do more reading, and focus on getting to know more birth workers.

I still have to work my day job? Trust. I am very lucky to have a day job that allows me to work my on-call doula schedule, and to make the TBBN meetings.

Money's tight? Trust. I have been able to put a lot of money into trainings and certifications, and I am lucky enough to have roommates who are really understanding when rent is a few weeks late. 

Trust the process. Building any business is difficult, and a birth business is no exception. So, I am trusting the process. 

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Tamara Niedermann

hi! i'm tamara, creator and owner of the kindred feminine. i have always known i am at my best when i was in support of the people around me. i surrounded myself with deep connections -- people who i could know and live life with. that desire for deep relationship is what has guided my journey to birth work, herbalism, and supporting the birthing and bleeding people in my community.

six years ago, when my younger sister and her husband started their parenting journey, she started sharing the things she was learning about pregnancy and labor. i watched documentaries with her. i read the books she recommended, and i realized that there was another way to birth your babies. until that point, the idea of home birth and midwives and doulas were sort of a joke. in movies and television they portray midwives as the hippy lady with incense and beads -- which to be fair that midwife exists and now i strive to be worthy of her -- but she's played as a joke. it took these books and documentaries, and new perspectives to show me that midwifery and doulas are legitimate callings, and home birth is a legitimate option.

simultaneous to my birth worker journey, i was coming into a better understanding of my womanhood and i wanted to have more holistic options for interacting with my fertility. so, i transitioned from hormonal birth control to the sympto-thermal method of fertility awareness to track my cycles, and then i switched out my single use menstrual products for reusables. both of these changes gave me a deeper knowledge of my cycles and my body

my growing love for fertility and body literacy combined with my heart for birthing and bleeding people and pregnancy, started me on this incredible journey of learning, and growth, and stewardship of the wisdom that has been passed to me.

the kindred feminine serves all birthing and bleeding people by supporting pregnant people prenatally, attending out of hospital births, and in the postpartum time. tamara teaches bodily autonomy through the fertility awareness method. i processes placentas, and makes herbal preparations including teas, baths, salves, and tinctures and elixirs.

i'm a bisexual cis woman who uses the pronouns she, hers, and her. i’m a newlywed in my early thirties. i'm the daughter of an immigrant single mother. i'm an advocate for fat positivity, body hair acceptance, lgbtq families, body literacy, and bodily autonomy for all people. i'm a birth keeper, and an herb

https://thekindredfeminine.com
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