Tamara the Birth Doula is now... The Kindred Feminine

Jul 17

The kindred feminine.

this has been a long time coming! The kindred feminine has been pouring out of me for months, and I am so excited to finally share it with you. my business name was birthed after months and months of prayer, and seeking. the first part was easy:

Kindred

in my twenties i lived with my best friends. we lived in a house we called the burrow in honor of our collective love for harry potter. and we communed. We sat on the floor, and drank coffee or cheap wine and we shared life together. We laughed together, and we cried together. They were and still are my deepest connections.

moving into my career, working with women, that feeling of deep knowing is what I am constantly striving for. that is what I want to build for the women i get to serve and the knowledge and wisdom I get to steward. I want to encourage kindred souls coming together and sharing and loving and living deeply with others.

furthermore, the relationships i build with the women who hire me are some of the most special relationships I get to have. when a woman invites me into her conception journey, pregnancy, mothering journey, or her quest for body literacy, she’s not just hiring a doula or taking a class, she is sharing a part of her heart with me and during that time, the intention of my heart is to grow deep connection and relationship with her. and so, I knew from the moment I decided to rebrand, my business would be called, the kindred… something. I knew that the goal of my business was to build kindred community.

Feminine

calling in the last part of my business name was the difficult part. In creating my business identity, i thought about that word and phrase a lot: feminine, even, the divine feminine. it felt obvious, and so I always considered including it in my business title, but I didn't really understand what it meant to me. I knew how other women interpreted the divine feminine. I knew how other spiritual practices held that phrase, but personally I didn't have a good knowing of what the Divine Feminine meant to me and I didn't want to use it as some buzz word just to bring people in. it would have been inauthentic. So I tabled it.

in march, my friend booth wrote a piece on toxic masculinity and the Divine Feminine and it's impact on the Christian Church and men in it. It was so powerful and I finally was able to reveal an understanding of what the Divine Feminine meant to me. i wouldn’t be able to express it the way he did, so you should really read his blog, but I’ll include this quote:

“When we ignore the feminine and only teach a masculine perspective of the life and death of Jesus the man, Jesus immediately ceases to be God. Without a Christ that is both feminine and masculine, we cannot know how to follow the way of Jesus. Without the feminine, masculinity becomes toxic. Without the Divine Feminine, the gospel becomes toxic.” - booth jewett

that is power. having divine feminine is vital to understanding the god of the bible and so, the kindred feminine was born. I want to call on the divinely feminine energy that is our gift and use that to build the community i have conceived.

Grace & peace to you.

Tamara Niedermann

hi! i'm tamara, creator and owner of the kindred feminine. i have always known i am at my best when i was in support of the people around me. i surrounded myself with deep connections -- people who i could know and live life with. that desire for deep relationship is what has guided my journey to birth work, herbalism, and supporting the birthing and bleeding people in my community.

six years ago, when my younger sister and her husband started their parenting journey, she started sharing the things she was learning about pregnancy and labor. i watched documentaries with her. i read the books she recommended, and i realized that there was another way to birth your babies. until that point, the idea of home birth and midwives and doulas were sort of a joke. in movies and television they portray midwives as the hippy lady with incense and beads -- which to be fair that midwife exists and now i strive to be worthy of her -- but she's played as a joke. it took these books and documentaries, and new perspectives to show me that midwifery and doulas are legitimate callings, and home birth is a legitimate option.

simultaneous to my birth worker journey, i was coming into a better understanding of my womanhood and i wanted to have more holistic options for interacting with my fertility. so, i transitioned from hormonal birth control to the sympto-thermal method of fertility awareness to track my cycles, and then i switched out my single use menstrual products for reusables. both of these changes gave me a deeper knowledge of my cycles and my body

my growing love for fertility and body literacy combined with my heart for birthing and bleeding people and pregnancy, started me on this incredible journey of learning, and growth, and stewardship of the wisdom that has been passed to me.

the kindred feminine serves all birthing and bleeding people by supporting pregnant people prenatally, attending out of hospital births, and in the postpartum time. tamara teaches bodily autonomy through the fertility awareness method. i processes placentas, and makes herbal preparations including teas, baths, salves, and tinctures and elixirs.

i'm a bisexual cis woman who uses the pronouns she, hers, and her. i’m a newlywed in my early thirties. i'm the daughter of an immigrant single mother. i'm an advocate for fat positivity, body hair acceptance, lgbtq families, body literacy, and bodily autonomy for all people. i'm a birth keeper, and an herb

https://thekindredfeminine.com